Sexy Witch is a self-empowerment guide for women via witchcraft. It’s a book that, underneath it all, teaches women to love themselves and tap into our life-giving power. Being a woman is a very powerful thing and the author re-awakens that within us.
“Women’s virtue is man’s greatest invention” is a phrase we’re exposed to almost immediately in the book. I couldn’t agree more, as the keyword here is “virtue”, itself. Virtue means good moral character…yet, virtual means “not really”, like virtual reality. The very meaning of the word virtual is proof that our “virtue” was, in fact, made up and conditioned into us, not a natural phenomenon. Throughout the introduction, she explores this connect in a little more depth and acknowledges the wounds it has created to our sex over the millennia. (I believe it goes without saying that it’s common knowledge women have been subdued over the course of most recorded history and if you somehow disagree with that, you might as well just stop reading any further…Now that I got that out of the way…) She says we cannot heal from this until we claim these wounds. By accepting what has been done to us, we begin to move forward to change it. She expresses we deserve our own faith and worship.
On to healing…Firefox reminds us that our body is a sacred space. More than merely a home to our hearts and souls, our body IS our hearts and souls. I believe we have been taught to disconnect ourselves from our bodies, so I’m very glad she brings that up. People very quickly forget (or are encouraged to disregard) that our bodies are just as important and significant as what’s going on inside them. That stuff about the soul living on after you die is real nice and stuff (and I’m not arguing with it at all), but our bodies are a symbol of our animalism and reconnect us to the Earth. Sometimes growing is overlooked in favor of transcending and Sexy Witch is teaching us to do both. This re-emphasizes Firefox’s next point that our bodies and souls are not 2 separate things but 1. Our minds are processes, not objects. Our bodies are vehicles which we manifest our will on Earth and life’s journey is inside ourselves.
Firefox then jumps into getting acquainted with our bodies. She recommends taking nude photos of one’s self and focusing on the parts you like about your body. She then discusses the major body part that separates us from men. According to Firefox, the vagina is the primary signifier of our femaleness, even more so than breasts (and more hidden). The author suggests we view it in a mirror and paint a picture of it to get a better understanding of it. She gives us some wordplay by telling us where origins of “vaginal” words come from. For instance “vagina”, itself, is Latin for “sheath (for a sword)” and “cunt” comes from the same root word for “country”, “knowing”, and “kin”…
[More wordplay unrelated to the vagina*]
“Intention”-from the Latin “intendere”-stretch into the future; “Taboo”-Polynesian for-sacred, menstrual
Firefox informs us that the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings and is about the same length as a penis (internally speaking). She also corrects us that a vagina is not, in fact, a space, but the potential for space because when aroused, the walls (read as: vagina) make room for insertion.
The next part of the book discusses what the vagina leads to: The womb. The concept to grasp here is that the womb is our temple. It’s a seat of intensely primal power because child and mother meet here for the first time as well as being the “factory” of life. She suggests that the opposite sex is afraid of this power and I find this quote relevant:
“American women who are sure of themselves, sexually, are often made fun of, sometimes ridiculed, and are at times even at risk of harm or death for expressing themselves, sexually.”
We then learn about the term “wandering womb”. The ancient Greeks believed the uterus free-floated around within a woman’s body and was not “attached” to anything, internally. This was also believed to be the cause of hysteria in women and thus deemed women of fragile, less rational mindset. This belief was carried over to Europe and taught throughout international medical practices well into the 19th century until microscopes were invented and cellular research was beginning. All of this reiterates the idea of reclaiming our wounds and the power to heal in the beginning of the book. She states that burning is the best route of destruction.
*Not that I’m trying to tell anyone what to do, here, but I was taught (and do believe, on my own) that burning something is giving it great power, so I choose to assume the author means burning something metaphorically as opposed to physically.
The book then proceeds to discuss magic and explains sympathetic magic as using 1 thing to stand in for another (usually larger, more complicated) thing. The author declares that speaking words that make us whole is a conscious act of magic. “I am safe in my sexual energy.” She describes the importance of creating a sacred space, but also talks aboutrecognizing a sacred space. This leads into existentialism (assigning meaning to an experience) which theorizes “we are, so we become”. This can be applied to sacred spaces. She confesses that as she practices the craft, more, she goes to sacred spaces more than she creates them. I agree that being drawn to a sacred space may have more of an effect simply because it is already built up. Anyone can make any space sacred, but it takes time to keep it that way from frequent use. Part II of the book is all rituals for a coven of witches or a solitary witch. I like that she says to take all these ritual formats as suggestions, because there is no wrong way to perform ritual.
“Sometimes we must believe before we can see.”
In this section, Firefox brings up mentors. She strongly recommends a mentor for us on our journeys to self-ownership and self-love. A “divinatory” method she suggests is Googling values that you hold very highly or want to embody within yourself. After trying this out, I have that I am driven by muses just as much as mentors. The 2 serve different purposes but can very often overlap and intertwine. I think it’s important to recognize our muses as symbols of our unconscious desires. We tend to feel inexplicable (and irresistible) pulls to our muses on a base level. For good or bad, it would be in our best interest to understand why we are attracted to them.
Now as far as my summarization of the book, I was all over the place. Ms. Firefox does a better job of organizing the ideas into chapters. I was very passionate about the book and I even got excited when I saw the front cover. It’s a great symbol of the message of the book and I think every woman (pagan or not) should read it! Firefox fearlessly acknowledges the wretched history of women but then teaches that this does not have to define us. We can take back what we lost (as it’s certainly not going to be given to us). She uncovers a woman’s real power and societal role that everyone likes to pretend doesn’t still exist. Could it be considered a feminist book? I suppose so…but I believe it’s not quite that. It is bringing the truth of what has happened and then learning from it.
As I read every chapter, I felt like words were being taken right out of my mouth. Even though it largely reinforced what I already know, I did learn from the book. So it enhanced what I picked up on my own. Touching back on the feministic argument, this book was not written for men. Although I do think there will be men out there who appreciate what she is saying, they will never be able to fully grasp the concept of it. I’m not saying they’re stupid. What I’m trying to say is they will never be able to put themselves fully in a woman’s shoes (so to speak) as I don’t think women could ever know what it’s like to be a man. I’m sure if a man had written a Sexy Witch book for men, he could touch on things that a woman (like me) will never be able to truly feel 100%…but you know I’d read it (Why not?). 🙂 Bottom line: we’re all sexy witches. The author just tells us how.